Thursday, 16 June 2016

Warri Weekly, Vol. 8: The Most difficult Times Of A Warri Boy.

Every difficult time in our lives has both intrinsic and extrinsic value. These are occasions a good learner would not miss. No one is without troubles, without personal hardships and genuine challenges.

That fact may not be obvious because most people don't advertise their woes and griefs. But nobody, not even the purest heart, escapes life without suffering battle scars.

Life will always throw at us curved balls, but between the ages of 24 and 33 years, the challenges of a young man are unique that they either make or break a young man as they are forced to begin questioning their dreams and wonder at realities.

The pressure to become, do or make something becomes enormous. The weight becomes heavier when you look around and people seem to be living life you only dream of or doing something for themselves.

You are the prayer points of your loving family, the “give me, give me” brother or friend, and behind your back or right in your very before you are aka “I nor get”

The sad observation is that this is the age where a good percentage of guys lose it, the age when if not careful one is devoured by alcohol or give into drugs or sex, because the heartbreaks and disappointments becomes too much and finding alternate solutions becomes priority.

This is where circle, of friends is reduced to those in the same conundrum with you or has a form of attachment to you, because some of them have found jobs, or fortunate into business that enable them pursue their dreams confidently and all you do is listen or read their plump stories of pleasure and foreign trips and to save yourself heartaches, you distance yourself from them.

This is the stage, where your parents and friends make a direct or subtle suggestion to take up teaching Jobs or anything as long as it pays something and your years in the university earn you a teaching job in private school, whose proprietress struggles to make simple and correct or you end up as office assistant in an office photocopying or buying lunch for staffs of the company.

The struggle continues, on the surface you are a church boy, devoted to God and allegiance to a church. Your financial embargo has turned you into a prayer warrior and a “believing” sister takes up a liking in you and because you are always in need for alternatives, you make another colossal mistake to date her or whoever.

Love and care is not the strong suit of anyone going through this stage. How are you going to buy her cosmetics, sanitary pads, or make her hair? Once in a while they deserve to be taken out for evening romantic strolls, that are graced with suya and canned drinks, how are you going to do that when all your strength has been used up shouting in classroom or your pocket does not imprisons you.

You cannot continue to hide under the priestly robe to deny her of relaxation spots or beach outings, when you keep eating Adams apple in closed doors. No you cannot, soon enough the tank of hope she has for you will be exhausted and prayer warriors become her Mum’s best friends and they give indirect prophecies that you are not the man for their daughter or you are being lazy. This is the stage where you are not allowed to have your dream lady because you don’t stand a chance with the men not only older than you, but offer the life they have dreamed of.

Life throws challenges and every challenge comes with rainbows and lights to conquer it, the difficulties of life are intended to make us better, if you can navigate through this stage, then you are sure to come out with gems of Patience, Hope, Responsibility, Accountability, Faith, Gratitude, Love etc. Like I stated earlier, this is your make or break stage, the decision is yours, to either be scarred or damaged. This is the dawn of your life; the day is yet to break. How you come out of this stage determines the afternoon and night of your life.

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